𝗕𝘂𝗿𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝗹𝗱 𝗺𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗳𝘀!
And then start developing a 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵𝘆 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗺𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘆.
When I decided last year that I wanted to start my own business I was asked for the first time what my relationship with money was. A question I never have asked myself before. But once I did I realised that it indeed is an absolute valuable question.
Asking myself this question I found that I have been lucky in a way that I never had any really negative perceptions when it came to money. Again my upbringing played a big role in that. We weren’t rich but it always seemed abundant. Because I learnt that value and pleasure weren’t measured in possessions, that you had to work for what you wanted to afford and that you could only afford what you had, that it was important to have some buffer for emergencies but that otherwise it would come and go and therefore was to be enjoyed. Not matter how little I had later in my adult life I always felt it was enough and that I would make do somehow. To the point where I even played down the importance of money for me, like I didn’t really need it, that I was okay with however little I had or made. Which of course is not true. As we do need money to live, to be secure, and to be independent and self-sufficient.
𝗦𝗼 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗻𝗲𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗳𝘀 𝗱𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲?
Is it never enough? Or like you are never being able to afford what you need or want? Are you feeling forever in debt or behind in paying bills? Or like only the others are lucky to have enough money? That it is not fair? Or even to the point where you have experienced the vicious side of money where a conflict over money caused a relationship or friendship turn ugly or even break up families?
𝗢𝗿 𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘁 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗳𝘀 𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗺𝗲?
Because when I think of what my relationship with money is then what comes to mind is not worry or stress about how much I have. But definitely discomfort when it comes to defining the value of my work or experiences in regards to money and then to actually have to ask someone to pay me! Like ‘no, no it’s okay, it’s fine, I’m happy to just help you’. As if asking for money meant my help wasn’t genuine? Where was I drawing the line between actual help and my work? Why would I feel bad being paid for work that I was doing?
I’m still trying to find out if it is my ‘I’m better at giving than receiving’? Or is it my inability to ask others for something? Or is it me generally just feeling like that in that moment it doesn’t matter and I’m just happy to help or work? Or is it actually having something to do with not feeling worthy of it?
I need to figure that out! And definitely give more thought to money!! Because it is important in life. It is the 𝗰𝘂𝗿𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗰𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗳𝗿𝗲𝗲𝗱𝗼𝗺. To living the life I really want. To living it on my own terms.
As part of the mentorship I’m currently going through they suggested a little burning ritual to let go of old money beliefs.
And it felt so liberating! To actually reflect on my relationship with money. To write down my old story with money. And to then burn it. In the snow by the way…
To then commit to my new relationship with money. Where I was confident in believing in myself to be worthy of money and that my time and efforts are valuable. Where I would step up and make that a goal of mine to ensure that I made money part of my priorities with my vision of my life in focus! I CAN DO THIS!
It is going to be a real journey of change…but I’m committed! And this was a great first step!
WILDWONDER 